Disney and the world of romantic films and books give us a fantasy image about our perfect future – we hope, and even expect to find the partner of our dreams and live happily ever after. But isn’t always like that. Instead we can end up with anxiety and stress.
You have rights in a relationship …
As human beings, we have fundamental rights which include freedom of speech and expression (in line with the laws of our land) and the right to be safe and the right to be respected and loved. Of course, there are many more rights. However you may have already recognised that you are (or were) in a relationship where these basic rights are not being met. And they should be met by the one person who should be able to count on the most – your partner.
Sometimes it seems that the world is full of people who have suffered at the hands of liars, cheats, narcissists, fantasists and phonies, people enormously skilled in the art of deception. You may realise how little you have really known your partner and have been taken in by their vision of the world, which is one where your rights don’t count as much as theirs.
Physical and emotional abuse in a relationship is illegal in this country and many others and should not be tolerated. This can be in any type of relationship – heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual or transexual. You can contact REFUGE (in the UK) which is the freephone 24 hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline.
Your partner may have gaslighting you. That is a tactic in which a person manipulates another person in the hopes of acquiring power of them. Often times this manipulation leads to the victim questioning their own reality, and in doing so, not questioning the motives and actions of the person gaslighting them.
Time to move on
You have come to realise now that your love for this person is pointless and that too much of your valuable time has been wasted. You know that it wasn’t all a complete waste of time. When the good times were happening you were happy together and learned much from the experience. But you just know deep down that the relationship isn’t working and it’s time to move on, or they have moved on from you.
In the meantime, you feel as if you are obsessed by their memory and your anxiety level has reached the roof. In your head, going over conversations you did have, should have had, or wished you didn’t have, ruminating about their lies and half-truths. Overthinking everything to the point you are not really sleeping. You spend your waking hours going over whether, if you changed, they might come back. And a whole lot of “what ifs”.
If this sounds like you, hypnotherapy might be able to help you relax and turn down the volume in your head. It can help you sleep and build your confidence so that you can find a better relationship for YOU in the future. Who knows, this might just be opening the door for your soul mate to enter.
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